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Why Families Choose Mediation
Elder Mediation is significantly less costly, both emotionally and financially, than litigation and is particularly helpful in situations that have not yet become litigious. Because family members develop their own solutions, which reflect their family’s unique set of circumstances, satisfaction with the outcome is high and the resolutions tend to be workable and long lasing.
Early intervention is always best, before the family is in crisis. Elder Mediation can create the space for everyone to be heard. It can strengthen family ties and enable all family members to deal with the changes to their relationships and situation. It also allows family dynamics, including sibling rivalries, to be addressed at a time when everyone is calm and thoughtful decision-making can occur.
Elder Mediation can often involve not just family members but professionals like lawyers, geriatric care managers and financial planners. These professionals are encouraged to attend, as their expertise, coupled with their insights into the family's needs, are often very helpful. A core value of Elder Mediation is to protect the rights and the integrity of the senior. Elder mediators act as neutrals, but look to families to consider ways to maximize the senior's independence when possible.
Some family disputes reach the point where litigation proceedings have begun. Due to the adversarial nature of litigation, courtroom proceedings can destroy already fragile relationships. By employing mediation, families have an opportunity to keep their conflict out of the courtroom. Courts take control away from those who need to be involved in crafting the solution. When families go to court, even the "winners" sometimes feel like they have lost.
Issues related to aging parents are as varied as families themselves. Elder Mediation is appropriate for dealing with issues such as:
- Residency decisions – assisted living, remaining home, moving in with a relative
- Driving and other Safety Concerns – driving, transportation to medical appointments, social events, church and errands
- Caregiving duties – division of labor, caregiver burnout, cost of caregiving
- Financial concerns – division/sale of property, family-owned businesses or property
- Decision-Making Issues – guardianship/conservator contests or power of attorney
- End-of-Life Decisions – advanced directive, living will, organ donation preference, funeral preplanning, personal representative/executor preferences
- Wills, Trusts & Estates–planning, distribution of assets, & resolution of family disputes
Elder Mediation provides a forum for family decision-making. It is beneficial for families who are unable to engage constructively in difficult conversations about the care of aging loved ones.
During the mediation process, two or more parties meet with an impartial mediator (or co-mediators) who facilitates a focused conversation in which family members are encouraged to express their interests and concerns.
When Is Elder Mediation Not Appropriate
Elder Mediation is not appropriate and will not be allowed to continue if the mediator finds that there is coercion, abuse or neglect of the elder. In cases where the elder has cognitive impairment or other limitations in his or her ability to fully understand and take part in decision-making, the mediator will ask that an advocate for the elder be present for all conversations and participate in all decisions which would affect the senior. Someone such as an attorney, a social worker, or a geriatric care manager would be acceptable.